As we now live in a society where pressure to have sex is greater and people are now loosing their viginities at a younger age...
Just wondering what are peoples views on the appropiate age (if there is one) to loose your virginity............
Also wondering at what actual age did you loose your virginity??
I may do another poll for that or you can add the answer in your reply as I'm sure that thread has been done before......

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Well, though I realise people (boys AND girls) are under pressure to lose their virginity ever younger these days, I still think the best time is when YOU think you're ready, and not before!

I know there are more than a few folk here that lost their virginity at younger than 16, but I was 17....... to an older woman!! (she was 22!)

Trouble is, waiting can take a LOT of will-power, and not everyone HAS that....... more's the pity!!

DM

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The selfish, they're all standing in line
Faithing and hoping to buy themselves time
Me, I figure as each breath goes by
I only own my mind

There is a right time, but not an age. I see that seems to be a common thought in your poll and I'm confident you're going to hear it again oh here.

You can do a search on here as that has been discussed at length, if you are really at the point of decision. There is a lot of input from real people in these threads.

(and when some dummy like me says “take your time….”……… do it.) lol

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When you are ready...is all I can say.

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There's no such thng as waiting too long (unless you deny your heart because of fear of the unknown) but there is definitely too early.

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Much more then a question

It is easy in some respects to think oneself ready for the moment. And I think it happens more so through accident then planning.

But however it happens usually one's motives are involved--usually love. But as a man looking at it and trying to guage the female point of view, it is usually for love then lust. Sadly as many women have told me, their first time was not the best one--usually they where too young and or their partner was. If I could change the world, for this even to befall women regardless of their age that the first time is very special--no pain or fear. Sadly and I must admit that young males usually lack technique--as I was once. Still I would wish the "first time" to be a blessed event for women.

As being a male, since by guile or honest intent we lose ours to girls/women. It for use is not a great dramatic even. Sure there is the uncertainty of the unknown--there is the build up and the sudden release. Still for all the placed importance of it--for a male to lose his "virginity" is a bit of hype.

Perhaps the best answer to this question is when emotionally one is able to deal with it afterwords. The answer settles down to is one "enlightened" and stronger for losing their virginity or scarred.

Good Poll- Good questions!- I truly believe that one should wait until they are ready... and HOPEFULLY it's not when they're too young to deal with all the responsibilities and possibilities that go along with having sex.

I cant tell you how much I regret/loathe my "first time". It's now quite obvious it was with the WRONG person (I refuse to call him a man). It was really quite accidential in a way... We had only been official for about a month, I was 20... I hadnt really planned on sleeping with him. I was niave and didnt think much about his 'hints' about "going for it". He misintrupreted one of my signals while fooling around...

Well they say hinde-sight is 20/20... Luckily the guy I'm seeing now is extremly patient. We've been dating since April and recently declared ourselves "official/ exclusive/ steady" (whatever ya call it) Lets me lead, and specifically told me: whenever I'm ready... He'll be willing ;-)...

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it scares me to think how young children are when they are losing thier virginity, and not only that but the young girls who are giving out blowjobs like a goodnight kiss! It scares me to think that that could be my kid doing that at 12 or 13

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i agree with most peeps here, there is n age but theres a time, it should be when you think your mature enough.. unfortunately the people see that as an age and not a psychological state. i mean once a person becomes sexually active and wish to do it then they shouldnt be forced to sit back and wait until the come of the age which is imposed. if my child (note i dont have one yet) wants to do the stuff i did when i was like 13 and over when theyre 13 then the only thing i can do is help em.... cos man i was FRUSTRATED when i was that age, cos i was stuck between a boy and a man and didnt know which i should be.

i was 14 when i lost my virginity, and i regret it.. i didnt understand what we were doing and i didnt even like th person, i was drunk... so in the end i wasnt ready, this comes back to me talking about when i have a kid, im not gonna push em out there going "go get em kid" and i wont be "i dont want you to have a girlfriend/boyfriend until your 16" but i will be sure that if they wanna do it they understand (and hopefully it wont be one of those embarrasing chats with your parents you always hate)

In a word, no. There is no preset age that is right for everyone. I do think alot of kids are jumping into sex too early, if you forgive the pun

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WAIT WAIT WAIT!! That is all that I can say to younger people. Sex, while it has its really really good points, complicates things in your life. It is definately something that you should know in your body and soul that you are ready to do. LOL- I act like we live in a perfect world.

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Would you like more sex with that?

I wouldn't recommend sex, drugs or insanity for everyone, but they've always worked for me.

well i've been ready for along time and i really wish it would happen, but so far in life, none of my wishes have come true, so i better not get my hopes up

but i feel that the proper age to lose your virginity is somewhere between 16 to 20

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