10-11-2003, 09:34 PM
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Is cheating ever justified?
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10-11-2003, 10:02 PM
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Nope.
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10-11-2003, 11:13 PM
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I agree with Lilith .... but then I think it is something about what you do for yourself .... I like to know that I can look myself in the mirror on a daily basis!
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10-11-2003, 11:25 PM
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When I say nope, I am referring to the fact that it is never justifiable. That does not mean I don't understand how and why it happens...Lord knows if the conditions were right I would be tempted as well. However ultimately it would be my choice and my responsibility.
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10-12-2003, 02:22 AM
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depends on the situation...........hard to say how tho ........... oh i dunno to much to think about so early this morning!
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10-12-2003, 02:28 AM
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Cheating, while morally wrong, can be justified in some cases. Your wife/husband/bf/gf cheating on you is justifiable...to me.
For my case, old marriage went into dumps, she was off running around with some other guy and I waited for 13 months before taking one offer. Make me a bad person? Don't think so. Nowadays, I'm of the mind that whatever you can stomach...its ok.
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10-12-2003, 02:31 AM
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ty ankh thats what i was tryin to say and cuddnt think of the words!
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10-12-2003, 05:03 AM
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Short answer, nothing that selfishly hurts another is right. Good people do bad things sometimes...it doesn't make them bad people, just human.
But whether a hurtful act, something that is fundamentally a betrayal of trust ("cheat" impliles sneaking....open relationships are an entirely different subject), can be justified is a harder question. "Justifyable" is a tricky word. People naturally come up with justifications for what they want to do. The difference between a "reason" and an "excuse" pretty much just depends on whether you're speaking or listening, as far as I can tell (and it's a puzzle that my brain's been working on for ages). But I think that the justifications that are classically offered for cheating are irrelevant. The act shows a lack of respect for the person being cheated on....whether they ever learn of it or not. Why it was done....well, it still reveals a flaw in the relationship. In, as always, my humble opinion.
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10-12-2003, 10:43 AM
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Just the mere words....cheating and justification...cannot go hand in hand.....and shouldn't even be used in the same sentence. It'd be a blantant oxymoron to use them together. "Reason" and "excuse" could be prefix or suffix words in a proper sentence structure.....but never justifiy, justification, justifiable. It just wouldn't be logical!
Geezzzzzz, I sound like Spock! Mister not Doctor......lol!
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10-12-2003, 01:36 PM
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10-12-2003, 02:09 PM
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How about if you still love your partner but they can not or will not have sex?
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10-12-2003, 02:25 PM
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Absolutelly no. Part of saying you give your heart to someone is a promise and all promises must be honored.
Loren you ask a very important question. In the case that your partner can't (for medical reasons), then I can but say that you and your partner would have to make some decisions.
But if your partner wont, well that is different. If you have already spoken of your needs with them and yet still will not, then it is either time to find a new partner, or you may give your partner fair warning that if something comes along.....
Remember a relationship is based on sharing and to deny sex is not fullfilling an obligation of a realtionship.
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10-12-2003, 03:24 PM
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Define cheating
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10-12-2003, 03:28 PM
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10-12-2003, 03:30 PM
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