First let me say I've enjoyed being a member of Pixies for a couple years. I don't post much, just read mostly. This is a great community and I would very much appreciate honest feedback from you all regarding my "situation."

Lately I've found myself in a tough spot. i'm your average mid-30s guy, married, decent job, no kids. Been married 9 years, good sex life, etc....by all accounts a pretty good life. I love my wife...but there has always been something missing....we're kind of like roommates that have sex, and do projects really well together...but beyond that we really don't have much in common.

Let me just come out and say it bluntly; I'm in love with another woman. We've worked together for over 4 years, but from day one I knew it. She is everything I always imagined my true mate would be. We have never had anything remotely physical...just plain old-fashioned friendship. We spend a lot of time together outside work...doing freelance work, computer stuff or just hangin out. I am physically attracted to her....but its so much more than that. We are each other's best friends...no doubt about it. She has been married for 13 years, no kids, and aside from the typical "bumps" is probably pretty happy.

Recently we worked REALLY late, combined with many beers each and some "honesty" came out...mostly from me, but some from her as well. I think she feels the same about me as I do about her, but I'm not 100% sure. And all the extenuating circumstances that come from being married as long as we have....it's exciting but very scary at the same time.

So....my question to all of you: What the hell do I do? My friendship with this woman is very important to me and I don't want to risk ruining it by pushing too hard. On the other hand...it is driving me crazy to spend so much time with her and yet still go home to other people.