I have very conflicting feelings also but they are both consenting adults today, at least in the eyes of the law. As such, they are free to follow their own wishes under the confines of the law. I also agree that the relationship is still not a healthy one but that's why I am here and they are there.

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Lots of people talk and few of them know, soul of a woman was created below

I can't get through to her 'cause it doesn't permit
But I'm gonna give her everything I've got to give.

I hear your sweet voice calling
out my name
As I stare from a six foot cell
And from beyond I heard the words
Deceptively Yours