>If it doesn't matter, why would a guy need to "compensate" for having a dick 4 inches long?<

He doesn't. The problem is if he feels *insecurity* from having a small cock, and feel he needs to compensate by having a pompus attitude or something.

However, there is compensating and there's compensating. I have one ex lover who had a small cock, and he *compensated* by being superb with both his hands and his tongue with oral sex.

BTW, a guy with a very large cock can have comfortable anal sex with you if he's gentle, and doesn't enter you when fully erect.

Too big though, becomes a *real* problem. I've never had a problem with about 8 1/2 inches or so, but when I had someone who was 11 inches and a HUGE girth, we had a HUGE problem. Quite simply, we never managed penetration. He couldn't get into me! I could give him head, but I had to do it French style - that is, keeping it outside of my mouth and licking it. It would not fit in my mouth either.

BTW, our breakup had nothing to do with that.