Wow, sounds like you've got a lot of issues to work through before you even think about mixing your shit up with anyone else's.

You've just ended a long term relationship, what's your hurry to ahve sex with someone else? Do you really think that's going to be fair on the person you end up dating? And what's with 'expecting sex on the first date'.....going into any kind of relationship with any kind of expectations is a BAD idea, but to make those expectations sexual is pure folly.

You wouldn't wake up one morning and decide to run a marathon before getting your body into the appropriate condition first, so don't rush into a relationship/dating until your emotional fitness level is at a point where you can do so without yourself or others getting hurt.

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