Allow me to assure you that your point is rather valid, FY. I am one of the girls that you seek, and I don't say this to be immodest. I enjoy all of the aspects of human sexuality that girls aren't supposed to. I'm not intimidated by male sexuality, and I even treat my own in a more masculine fashion. (I am straight, just for the record.) And guys have told me so. I remember a guy friend of mine telling me how lucky my boyfriend was. "If all women thought like you," he said "there'd be no divorce."
I took that to heart, and I'm always trying to encourage girls to be more like me.
There are girls out there for you, and they're looking for a nice guy. I am working night and day on it, lemme assure you.