Are chat rooms in Yahoo; (smut at it's finest) the same as Matchmaker sites?
 

Ok, I know that I'm at a loosing battle here, but... Old man goes to the nastyest porno chat sites, and says he's only fooling around. But the conversations are like cum sit on daddys lap and you can play with his friend.....enough to gag the average woman. But I gues there are sluts out there that answer the call of the forbidden. He really gets a raging hard-on, while I get worried. Worried in that I'll be the target when he's done, if I say no..I'll have abig problem.
Ok I now on the other hand have gone to Matchmaker sites, for wman to man conversations, ok maybe not telling the entire truth, about being unhappliy married. But was not looking for anything. He calls me the slut.....Is there something wrong with this picture?

Cockalot.

I have read all your posts and this one I just had to reply to.

All I have to say is... If you are having this many problems with your spouse..what the hell you staying with him for?? There is alot of help out there for the women w/o children who want and need it. All you have to do get the hell out and ask for help..and if it's that bad..call the cops. Before something happens, especially if you are scarred. Alot of great people here at Pixies have given you great advice....here is a suggestion ....use it.

Sorry to be so blunt.

agree
 

Ya there is something wrong there!!!!!!:confused:
Is the kettle calling the tea pot black, I think so.
I full agree with LoveDiva4u on this one..

Re: agree also
 

Lady!

I'm starting to wonder what's going on here.

Is this a tit for tat thing with your old man?

Do you get a thrill out of living in fear, or is there

another reason for staying?

Not playing games, truthfully
 

I understand all that everyone is saying, but when I came back this last time, I guess I really wanted to believe it would get better. I have been married for 12 yrs, Yes I know there is help there. Cann't call the cops he knows them and where I live it's next to imposssible just to walk out, my neighors will not help me either. They love him to death, his family is on his side. I feel right now I'm betwwen a stone and a chair. Or however that expression goes. I just need some traveling money, I have all the papers I need put away just need some cash and I'll leave. I'm sorry I caused all this trouble.
I was brought up you made the bed now lie in it. Sometimes I just need to hear it from someone else. I go over and over it in my head, and I cann't be all wrong, like he says!

Taking It There
 

Ok..

First.... there are shelters out there for battered women. YOU don't have to have children to seek one out! Want a start? Call your local United Way or YWCA.

HE is NO man if he is laying his hands on you! NO ONE and I mean NO ONE deserves to be hit. And what I mean by "hit" is physicallyand emotionally. Bruises can be left not only on the body, but the heart as well.

Do yourself a favor deary...and I don't know you from Sam Hill, but I know what I'm talking about.... I'd much rather leave all my material things behind than endure such shit as the treatment he is giving you. So what if you end up having nothing material at first. Hell I'd much rather have my life than any old piece of money or what have you.

You say you were raised with the theory of "you made your bed, so lie in it." Maybe so hunny, but continue on being with him and you're end up laying all right...end up laying right in a casket.

Harsh? You betcha! But no more harsher than HIM hitting you.

Just my two cents..

Timing
 

Are you waiting for the "right time"?

If saving enough to get out in the near future is possible,
go for it.

If your partner is controlling the money so that it'll take
months or years, make your choice.

It's scary out there in the big bad world, but it can get better.

It doesn't sound like home can get better.