Is being on this forum / site a sin?
 

PJE mentioned that in the cheating poll that being on a forum of this nature is a sin?

What do you all think?

Personally, I don't since I use the site to help better my activities with my g/f. I don't use the pics..just the stories and forums..

I love this forum! Just wanted to point that out right now.

Cheating is so broad an issue and it really is subjective. Some guys might consider their woman with another woman as not being unfaithful yet with another man it is.

I think ppl need to express this when they decide to be monogomous. To me cheating is when a man/woman has physical sexual contact with another person without their partner's consent.

If 2 ppl want an open relationship then that's fine for them. I would consider being with a guy (or girl? I'm curious) who is in an open relationship. I have been with a man in a closed one and quite honestly it wasn't worth it. I felt I compromised my moral beliefs for cheap sex that wasn't all that good. It was quick, hard to find time, lying, and I knew despite his claims that I really meant nothing to him. I have nothing against purely sexual relationships but I want to be able to get some when I want it too, not when he could fit me in or when he's in the mood.

Now phone sex, online chats, cybering, that is a whole new area to deal with. I personally feel it falls under the porn category, right along with movies and magazines. I do it, I love it and I want to keep doing it. As long as it doesn't lead to infatuation and a real life meeting, I'm cool with it. So this forum is cool with me.

But I know some ppl aren't comfortable with these sort of activities. I think it's up to the individual. I don't think one person should ask another to stop but in the same respect if you really love someone then why do something you know hurts them? I think that in that situation the person should do it not in secret but just so that they aren't shoving it in the other's face. And that person should respect that the one they love isn't doing it in front of them and just leave it go.

But if someone really thinks forums and porn are cheating then they need to sit down and have a serious talk and come to a mutual decision. Perhaps if they have that opposing views they should look for partners closer to their nature.

Sweet Chastity

Sweet Chastity;
That has to be the most thought out description of cheating that I have ever heard. Very deep. To top it off, I fully agree.

Sweet Chastity --- Thank-you so much for your thoughtful analysis. I tend to agree with you on your careful distinctions, and on the reasoning behind them.

Let me also say that I don't believe that anything I am engaged in at Pixies' (whether it be serious sharing of opinions, light-hearted sexual banter, posting/viewing pictures, or reading stories) is harmful to me, nor do I believe that I am hurting anyone else in the process. In fact, I have made some very dear friends here and we have been able to help each other through some very difficult times; through them I feel that I have become a better person. I am agnostic and do not particularly believe in 'sin' as defined in any holy book, but I do feel that on a very basic level sins are those voluntary actions and/or thoughts that are hurtful to the self or to others --- and by that definition, I don't feel that I'm sinning here at all.

--- sweetstuff

I'm with SFC.

A sin is when you break your own code of right and wrong.

You know when you've stepped over the line.

a sin is when you spill your beer :D

Forgive me Father for I have sinned...


If loving you is wrong, I don't wanna be right.

:box:
sin is relative to the guilt you're made to feel by someone influential that can get others also to pour on the guilt trip so you'll eventually hate yourself and the things you do. Self-doubt about things you do takes over and soon you become secretive or hide somethings or you rebel, lash out and show all. That's when the shit gets thick and the finger pointers have yer ass in their sling. :fone:
Fuck them. This place is from God.
Yeah, right said the bible thumper. So is beezlebub, the devil. :huh:
"Ha!" says I, "Peeps isn't trying to lure people away from anything nor toward anything. We're a forum for topical, atypical and less mainstream daily conversation.":bjhappy:

TY Lil, 4 the :bump:

About that sin being relative thing, these are definitely things that are wrong. God or not:
murder;
kidnap;
warm beer;
peanut butter in refrigerator;
etc.

Amen Brother Citrus. I hear ya on the PB

Master1012

I doubt that one can decide what a Sin is without deciding what the Good is.

Doable, but it does require real effort.

No, unless by posting you are sinning against yourself

Mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa.

A sin is something that you believe that your spirital being thinks is wrong.

So far it seems that everyone that's posted on this thread agrees that this is site and all that entails is not a sin. However, it stands to reason that if you are of a belief system that thinks Pixies and sites like it are a sin, why would you be on here in the first place? If you're on here because you don't agree with your belief system, then it's time to find a new one don't you think? Me personally, if it makes you happy and doesn't make anyone important to you unhappy, how can it be wrong? If it's not wrong, it can't be a sin.

I have known members who have been truly conflicted between their spiritual beliefs, personal beliefs, what they are being told by others, and their own needs.

I've never believed that being on this site is a sin. The only reason why my wife doesn't know about "rabbit" is that she'd strongly disapprove.

I decided long ago that there would be some things that I would be selfish with, that I wouldn't ever ask anyone else's permission to do. Being a part of this community is one of them.

I have no regrets or apologies to offer.

unfortunate
 

Honey, darling, light of my nightlife every other weekend.... not everyone is in a relationship like ours, or Lil or some of the others who we know and have met. There are many like Rabbit who unfortunately have to conceal this part of who they are from their loved one, typically men hiding it from their wives who don't indulge or share their tastes for variety. For some it may be upbringing, others some misconceived notion that to enjoy sex and to seek new higher pleasures therein with the one you love makes you a whore, then there are you just plain unimaginative and lazy people....... >elbows Lord Snow on lazy< giggle...... in your typical mainstream Christian Mythology (I'm not belittling, merely saying it's a gathering of oral/written traditions passed down to illuminate a belief system) sex outside of marriage or a lifetime commitment is a sin, sex that doesn't have the chance of resulting in creation is a sin, I'm sure the majority of sexual positions and women achieving orgasms fall under commandments... ( Oh GOD oh GOD...... and Kama Sutra......false idol?) i'm sure theres a translation of the Pentateuch somewhere that makes oral sex dirty and a crime against the mouth with which we should sing His praise..... God has been getting more and more lenient as each division of the bible comes up..... kinda like a new teacher all up tight..... you get tenure and it's like WOOHOO gum? go for it! we have the old testament the new testament.....it's time for the now testament God: the College Years..... if it burns, smoke it. if it has a hole, poke it. If it feels good, do it......


I love nyquil........ I'm going to hell for this...... how many people you wanna guess I've offended? 50? 100? laugh/sob.....sigh

Through another forum, I have had an online affair with a woman for close to a year now. The guidelines are that we will never meet. She is a happily married mother of two delightful boys, and I for one would never want to destroy that.

Why does she do it? To her, physical contact is cheating, and not what we are doing, and besides, what we have together, makes her a better lover with her hubby. (I'll have to take her word on that.) ~grin~

No, it is NOT sin.

>shrug< if you ain't givin away somethin your partner wants and values it ain't cheatin.



>grins and hides to see the look on LS's face for THAT one<

Okay, I doth be confusticated on that one. If you have an open relationship and all the terms and rules are agreed upon that's you're decision. I'm a one guy one girl type of person. You can look, but not touch. It's more fun when she looks with me, but I go home with her and she's the only other person that sleeps in my bed while we're together. I don't think porn, pixies, or sites similar to be cheating or a sin. I think that this site has actually helped me in quite a few ways.

thats why I brought you here darling.




yes, ladies and gentlemen..... he does really say "I doth be confusticated " it's actually kinda cute.

Are you sure about that???

I agree that open attitudes are good, but I'm not sure that really translates to being the same as open relationships. :)

I don't think the site is a sin, but I do struggle with the level of sexuality not really matching up with what the rest of my life is all about....sometimes I'm more aware of those emotions and won't visit quite as often .... usually it means that I spend almost no time looking at the pics these days and have steered clear of writing any new stories for quite sometime now.

But I love the people here, that's what has always kept me coming back!

Yes I am. Because no matter what the relationship is, if you are closed minded then you will never see their point of view on things. With an open mind you are more willing to see the other side and maybe even try something new. I am not saying that being open minded is the best way to be, for some it is not. But I have found that since I open my mind to new things, both sexual and non sexual, my relationships have improved.

open minded is good, open relationship not good for everyone. I'm glad you've found a way that works for you Prophet love.

Lilith has found a way that works for her, congratulations.


I'm not sure I could handle the open relationship thing....when I offered it to my companions in my youth it was me not feeling worthy or not being totally happy in my relationship but refusing to leave until I knew they had someone else. (god why did I bring ex's into this forum.....?)it's taken me a long time but I'm happy and I think I deserve to be happy. I'm in a relationship with someone who is comfortable with himself as well as me and that makes me happy. Do I do shit that isn't on his faves list? yeah. and when he plays with my thighs I could smother him with a pillow but as he said in another thread he's exploring and enjoying the female form, I feel kinda special that I get to be that person. I know I can't be like Lady Lilith.... I control so much outside the bedroom to the point that everyone thinks I'm a cunt that when I'm somewhere I feel safe with a person I feel safe with I want to be able to submit. to give overcontrol to another person. I'm a very high stress person sex is my only release from that. I don't do drugs any more, I don't drink much ( a shot and a half made me tipsy ) I worry constantly. but when it comes to sex I can "give myself over to absolute pleasure" and not worry about anything. Maybe it's an addiction, maybe its an illness, maybe I'm just a needy Dependant individual hence making me not an individual. But a sinner? no.

Lust........ okay how does this not play into lust?
Gluttony......overindulgence of any sort is gluttony
Greed.........I was greedy for attention, not wanting to be a thread killer
Sloth.....my lazy ass is in front of the computer.... how about you?
Wrath.....how many of our beloved pixies have left due to being caught by loved ones?
Envy......picture threads....... I want to look like (>>>>>>>>>>>>>>)
Pride..... LS named his dick pride so at least after everything he still has his pride



the 7 deadly sins.... these are the big ones folks.


damn my education.

Not being here would for me be a greater sin.

I agree dear!

The pride thing was a joke. However, you can always look at it this way. Either you will go to heaven or you will go to hell. If you go to heaven you have nothing to worry about, but if you go to hell you'll everyone one of us there and probably a lot of other old friends and you'll be so busy you won't have time to worry.

Not if you look at the true definitions of the sins, and since not all things change, it is not a sin.

The way I see it, if Pixies is a sin then I'll see ya'll in Hell. :nod:

I guess it would depend on ones beliefs.

No Salacious, in many cases it depends on the authority you place in other's beliefs.

Like giving a damn what other's think?

Life's awfully short to worry about that all the time. At the end of the day it's my face I have to look at in the mirror, it's me, I have to live with.

*reclaims own authority in own beliefs and dashes over to the smut games*

i'm so glad my lack of religious morals precludes from even dealing with this question. :D

I'm glad I've reached the point where I'm pretty much with her ^^^

Not that I didn't start out with a lot of religious guilt about everything, but I have matured (I think) to the point where I have my moral compass aimed at a comfortable true north.

Fortunately, neither morals nor ethics need be based upon religion.