Helpppppppppp

[samie]

i am having trouble cuming with my mate i can make myself cum alone..and acutually prefer it......i love good cyber,,porn,,but i seem to prefer my vibrator to him an i doing it....he used to be able to make me cum by giving me head but i dont seem to be able to relax with him and it takes so long he get tierd.....i just cant relax with him any more....i love having sex,,,i love for play,,,but i think i am just spoiled by my pc partners and my viberator.....ideas????? god i am so horney i have a headach!!!
help poor samie please????

[Lilith]

I have heard from several sources, that if you use vibrator often it can make it more difficult to cum during regular sex. I guess your body begins to need the intense stimulation that the vibrator provides and is less reactive to typical touch. I would try to ease up on the vibrator and just be "handy" for a period of time. Another idea would be to use the vibrator externally while he is inside you. Hope you get rid of that headache! Good luck!

[Oldfart]

Vibe is an overstimulation.

No-one can compete with a vibe in a fair race.

Make up your mind, the vibe or the fellow.

[BIFF]

Have them both! While having intercourse, use the vibrator to stimulate your clit or other areas of your body. I like the feeling! As I slide in and out of my partner from behind she will use the vibrator on her clit and I occassionally feel the vibrations TOO!!! VERY NICE feeling.:D

[GermanSteve]

When you are alone with yourself you can try learning to react to the normal stimulation again. Leave the vibe in the drawer and try touching your sensitive points as slight as possible. Continue as far as you can come. Probably you will see that this works surprisingly well.
I had a time I masturbated so hard that I got an inflammation on my cock´s tip. That was because the normal stimulation was not enough. The itching forced me to do it very carefully, and, surprise, surprise, it worked.

[samie]

*sighs*acutually i do masturbat and when i do i can do it very softly and cum big time....but i can't do it infront of him and relax enough to enjoy it.....now i *love* to watch him jack off!!!!*drools*.....i think i will try the viberator while he does me tomarrow and see if i that might work.....otherwise i am just in love with my pc and maybe i can strap a dildo on it.....hahahaha..j/k....i think i have been spoiled by really good cyber and phone sex....rl is just never as good......

[GermanSteve]

Aha, that´s it! You can´t relax. Try to find out what causes the stress you have. Is it possible that you have stress because you want to cum?
Accept that you can have bad days also. Simply relax, without forcing anything. Because forcing means stress. Stress means that you cannot get what you want to force.

[samie]

you might be right,,i have a lot of stress....maybe i can get into a yoga position and chant first....*giggles*he thinks im nuts anyway......and he's right!!

[FireEye8]

Well you never said if the vibrator while he was fucking you worked or not? I was just wondering. As a guy I have found that jacking of online and phone have made me be able to go long when I am with my gf. I can fuck her through two orgasms before I cum. Which she loves. But I can see why that wouldnt be good for a woman.