advice for my 1st time on top

[vababy]

my boyfriend and i have been having sex for awhile and now he wants me to be on top. I want too also but I have no idea what to do and i wont do it yet b/c i dont want it to be bad for him. any advice? _Thanks_

[Aqua]

Well first I'd like to say there are a lot of guys who like the girl on top because that gives us a chance to really look at you and touch your breasts and thighs and such... ;) As far as what to do... (after some foreplay).. just have him lie back, then straddle him and reach down and guide him into you... communicate while you start to ride him... ask him how it feels as you lean forward, or sit straight up... I'll almost guarantee that he'll be into it! In my experience, the only bad sex I've had with a girl, is when she just laid there on her back doing nothing... no sound, no movement. And don't forget to put yourself in the position that feels good for you! I'm most excited when I can see that my lover is getting off!! :D Good luck!

[Oldfart]

If it's too confronting, start missionary, the roll on top of him.

Work the bits till they get comfortable.

The enjoy the hell out of it.

[PlayfulTigress]

First of all, do what feels the most comfortable for your body. (And, I'm not talking about genitals and sexual stimulation here. I'm talking about the whole body.) There are several ways a woman could be on top. The most comon "porno" one is a woman squatting over the man. This only works if you have knees of steel! :) For the "real world" woman, kneeling above the man works best. It takes a great deal of stress and pressure off of your knees when you have them down on the bed. The main "technique" you need to know and use is simply to grind your hips. :) Also, the position of your torso will change the sensation for both you and your partner. You can lean back (like Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct before she killed her lover ~chuckle~), keep your body upright, or lean in towards your lover. Another option (which seems to be used in pornos for the "camera shots") is to squat or kneel (which ever is most comfortable for you) over the man, NOT facing him. This position would be like a sitting up doggy-style. And, like with "regular" doggy and missionary, they have different sensations for both partners. I hope some of this helps. :)


~Linds

[scotzoidman]

If he wants you on top, I don't think there's any way it'll be bad for him! Maybe you're afraid you won't know how to move just right for him, but don't worry - you just find what makes you happy, and let him lay back and watch you please yourself - that's what he wants anyway!

[The LOM]

You'll be fine... you can control the penetration, the speed, your orgasm better and as long as your legs don't give out... you may find out that for many of the reasons already mentioned by the others, he'll like this position quite a bit! Give it a chance, it might just be fantastic for you both!

~peace~

[megcm1]

My advise is to keep yr hands on the bed too for support, at least at first, to help with the motion.

[White Tigress]

One thing I like to do when I'm on top is lace my fingers with his then pin his hands above his head. :D It kind of gives you the feeling of being totally in control because he can't move too much. Plus an added advantage is my boobs are swaying right above his face. :D I also like to rock my hips back and forth, then move up and down on him, of course making sure he goes as deep as possible. ;) :D

As everyone else has said, take your time and do what's comfortable for you, find the rythm that works for the two of you. Above all, enjoy yourselves!

Tigress