Need help for inhibited wife

[emetitwos]

I've been married for 12 yrs. After 2 kids and a lot of sex, she still won't touch herself during love making, she can't say the word pussy, clit, cunt, whatever you wanna call it, and she won't even kiss me after I have eaten her out. The really frustrates me because I really want to get lost in the moment with her and I can't. Has anyone else had this problem and what did you do about it? Any suggestions would be great. I love my wife... but I have had just about enough. HELP!:confused:

[Lovediva]

Sorry...can't help you.. I never had that problem! :D ;)

But I wish you luck!!

[TDK]

coz Diva always kisses after she gets eaten out :p yum yum


Originally posted by LoveDiva4u
Sorry...can't help you.. I never had that problem! :D ;)

[Lovediva]

Damn..I am not around for a couple of days and I get picked on from all sides!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:D :D

But TDK is right...lmfao!!!

[TDK]

picked on from front and back?? :p mmmm, pick turns into lick lick :D

...coz TDK is right :D



oh btw, we kinda adapted part of u, thats why we are so active :D

Originally posted by LoveDiva4u
Damn..I am not around for a couple of days and I get picked on from all sides!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:D :D

But TDK is right...lmfao!!!

[Lovediva]

TDK is a smartass....... :p We'll he thinks he is!!!! LMAO!!!!! :D :D

[TDK]

only from learning from my elders :p
hmm, i wonder who that could be?? :D

can u kiss my smartass Diva? :D i would kiss urs back in return

Originally posted by LoveDiva4u
TDK is a smartass....... :p We'll he thinks he is!!!! LMAO!!!!! :D :D

[Lovediva]

<walks into thread...walks right back out> :D :D

[TDK]

<waves at diva, then chases her with a water pistol and squirts her > :p:D

Originally posted by LoveDiva4u
<walks into thread...walks right back out> :D :D

[Lovediva]

Sorry for hi-jacking the thread emetitwos....

Can anybody help him this poor soul out?????

I know TDK can't!!! :p :D

[TDK]

im sorry too emetitwos

and Divas right, i cant help u on this one, sorry

Originally posted by LoveDiva4u
Sorry for hi-jacking the thread emetitwos....

Can anybody help him this poor soul out?????

I know TDK can't!!! :p :D

[Oldfart]

1. Have you talked this over with your wife? Find out
why she feels this way.

2. Not everyone is comfortable with crudities and even
fewer with some oral activities.

3. See if you can get her to talk to a sexual counsellor,
with you, so you both know where you stand.

4. This post is about you, not her. If she doesn't see her
attitude as a problem, maybe the problem is your
expectations.

5. See 1,2,3 in that order.

[rabbit]

This won't be a quick fix. No such thing here.

Mrs Rabbit was very inexperienced and inhibited when we first met. Talking about our feelings was key to opening up our love life. It meant that I had to back off at first. This was hard for me because I was much more experienced and open than she was. We took it slow and discussed what we liked and didn't like. We tried new things and if she became uncomfortable, we stopped.

Now, after 10 years, we are much more open with each other. There are still things she doesn't like but that's OK.

Bottom line: communication!!!!

good luck!

rabbit

[nutworld]

I''d like to chip in my 2 cents worth, if no one minds.

A) Listen to Irish..he's very correct with what he says.

B) Find out if there are things away from the bedroom that are causing her distress. Many times issues from work, or other places can cause depression or stress that makes one become Very inhibited and withdrawn. If these other things are creeping into the bedroom, try and find a way for her to keep them out, and your sex life could/should improve.

[Nubian]

I had almost the exact situation wrt my wife. We've been together 10 years and she still has difficulty saying "dirty words" and at first tended to be rather restrained sexually speaking. I, too, would get frustrated at first, but then I would recall the reasons why I fell in love, and they had nothing to do with "sex." So I never forced the issue. Eventually, she began to be more free (sexually speaking) in bed. I really think that this is due to the fact that I never pressured her into doing anything that she was not comfortable with and I never made her feel that she wasn't satisfying me in bed. I spoke openly about my desires and hid nothing from her (For example, my porn collection or viewing explicit materials on the net). Eventually she started asking me questions about what attracted me to the materials I watched/surfed. This would lead to a mini-discussion and a frank sharing of feelings. More recently, she has viewed many of the pics posted on this site and I think that gave her comfort that "normal people" can be open with their sexuality and desires. (God Bless Pixies :D ) This open channel of communication have led to a even deeper intimacy between us and a gradual exploration of different sexual activities that are totally initiated by her. I almost had a massive coronary attack when she announced, off the cuff, that we should take some pictures to share with our friends at Pixies. The long and short of is that I totally agree with Irish, communication is the key. Be sure that you are not exerting undue pressure and backing her into a corner as this could lead to resentment. Also, a little self-analysis might be in order. Are you communicating your expectations clearly? And are these expectations reasonable? I would suggest a heart-to-heart talk to see if some middle ground can be reached. And please keep in mind the reasons that you fell in love with her in the first place. You may find that the things that frustrate you are not big a deal, in the larger scheme of things.

[emetitwos]

Thanks to all who replied. It was nice to see that someone else had a similar problem. I'll try to communicate more and manage my expectations with my wife. Thanks again!!