Ladies advice needed please.

[cowboy]

We had sex in 3 hours of meeting, very hot, whipped cream, sexy talk, she very aggressive. After 1 year now sex has dropped to once biweekly. Despite backrubs, constant compliments of how beautiful she is, doing all I can to help around her home, treating her like a queen w/conscienceious efforts, nothing works. All she wants to do is cuddle at night. Even snapping at me not to touch her, closing her legs tightly even during caresses, refusing oral sex on her which she loved. She will dress sexy, grope, make eyes and suggestive comments often open flirtatious but never comes to futation. When sex actually happens she seems generally cold wanting me to cum quickly while I've always been a romantic. Size isn't an issue as she often commented I should have been a porno star. I'm a one lady man turning away interested parties. I'm told I'm always smiling and joking. No relationship has every been like this. I've graciously turned away a few of her friends that insist I'm wonderful and deserve better. I'm flattered but reply, she is in my heart and I lover her. I've questioned if she liked women but she aggressively makes a face saying that's discusting. Asking what really excites her, she says she likes porno movies which I've tried several times but she seems very uninterested even then. She says her job tires her out but it's the same job she had when we met. I'm now lonely, frustrated and efforts to talk are short with a scarstic "Oh poor guy." It's wearing on the relationship now. What's a man to do? She 53, me 47.

[BugnSumen]

Just an idea but it sounds to me that things have gotten a little stale. Have you tried any new unusual things. This can sometimes liven things up. You need to think back way back and see if there was ever any kind of hints that she may have droped at anytime of things she wanted to do. Or just totally surprise her one night or day with something totally unexpected. Have you ever sat down and got into a really personal converse with her maybe you can find out what is going on deep down with that.

Sumen

[cowboy]

Sumen,

Thanks very much. Yes, I've tried that but nothing seems to work. Odd for me as I like excitement, romance, etc. I've tried movies, spontanious activity but it's seems to be at her will. It only happens when and if she wants, otherwise it's hands off. Well the matter is over now and I must just move on. Sad that I have so much love to give and here it's not wanted. Oddly, I do have a few ladies that have let me know how much they like me, want to be with me, are very warm and fun but I've always had the same response...One lady has my heart now! In time this will pass.

Thanks for your reply,
cowboy

[BugnSumen]

I take it from your reply that the 2 of you are no longer together. But fear not my cowboy friend. This to will pass. I am on my second marriage myself. It seems like the feelings will never die and all hopes are lost. But trust me they're not. You must decide that you are stronger than that and that you will not allow her to have the power of you of controling the emotions that you use in day to day life. You are loved by friends and family and no one could ever ask for more.

Sumen

[cowboy]

Suman,

Absolutely correct! Thanks pal, you hit the nail on the head with the control issue. I'll do my thing, wish her the best and what the future holds is yet to come. :-)

You folks on this forum and a couple friends on ICQ have bright the smile back, the motivation to get out and just have fun. So I'm off to have a dinner, shoot a bit of pool, hear some good music and relax!

Terrific forum here! Kudos to the administrator and you all!

YEEHAW!
Cowboy

[BugnSumen]

just never forget that we all have a choice to be independent or co-dependent

Sumen

[MrCuriousUSA]

Your last note mentioned ICQ friends. Many folks at Pixies are also on ICQ, so you might want to list your ICQ number in your profile here. I love ICQ's great free features, so I've listed my number here in my Pixies profile.

Take care!:)